From God's Word, How to treat your wife. And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God’s word.   Paul, (Ephesians 5:25-26 NLT) And you husbands must love your wives and never treat them harshly.  Paul (Colossians3:20) We all make many mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way. We can make a large horse turn around and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a tiny rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, even though the winds are strong. So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is full of wickedness that can ruin your whole life. It can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it is set on fire by hell itself. James 3:2-6

	Nature's Beauty "To experience the strength of a man is to have him speak on our behalf.  For when men abuse with words, we are pierced.  Their strength has wounded us.  When they are silent, we are starved.  They have offered no strength; they have abandoned us.  But when they speak with us, hear us, offer their words to us and on our behalf, something in our hearts is able to rest."   by Stasi Eldredge, "Captivating:  Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul,"  John and Stasi Eldredge, Nelson Books, 2005, p. 129.   Christian Love   Husbands are commanded to love thir wives.  Paul does not leave beating them, or mistreating them, as an option.  Words can wound even more deeply than bruises.  We must be careful of our words.   The tongue is the most difficult object to control and I make no pretense that I have mastered my tongue.  However, with God's help, all things are possible.      A lot of people are confused about what "love" is and is not.  I know I was until Paul told me what biblical love is in the following verse.  For love "is something" and that something is not an emotion but our daily actions toward others.  It is really a decision to love someone followed by your behavior.  It is also a commitment.  If you are not sure what love is, click Christian Love and let Paul define it in his words.       You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. And the most important piece of clothing you must wear is love. Love is what binds us all together in perfect harmony.  Paul (Colossians 3-14-15) Dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight.  James 1:19-20 This works for your wife, children & friends